“Yes, am an introvert; No, i am not shy.”
If a crowded cocktail party feels like a holding cell to you, even as you gamely keep up your end of the chatter, chances are you’re an introvert.
Introverts have many wonderful qualities that help them shine in the workplace. They have a capacity for deep thought and meaningful (if fewer) relationships, they are able to intensely focus on important tasks and they have heightened emotional sensitivity, to name a few.
As the day wears on, introverts may find that constant distractions scatter their thoughts and chip away at their concentration. Make a conscious effort to minimize distractions and set aside uninterrupted chunks of time for work.
“Please forgive me if I don’t talk much at times. It’s loud enough in my head.”
Energy and Introverts
Introverts may sometimes suffer from becoming tired as a result of socialising. This is because introverts find it draining to be in some social situations. You will need to learn how to protect your energy as an introvert so that you do not get tired from socialising.
Why Do Introverts Feel Tired From Socialising?
It’s said that introverts get energy from spending time alone or being in nature. In contrast, an extrovert gets their energy from being around people and being in a busy place. Extroverts don’t feel the need to spend time alone because they are not drained by socialising.
There is another way to interpret this situation. You can explain the reason that introverts get tired from socialising by seeing that they give energy to people when they socialise, whereas extroverts take energy. An introvert will feel tired after talking to an extrovert, while the extrovert will feel more energised.
The extrovert will be the performer in the social situation and the introvert will have to spend their energy listening and concentrating on what the other person is saying. In some situations, it can be hard for introverts to get away from people who drain their energy. They feel trapped or worry that it will be impolite to remove themselves from conversation with someone who is making them feel tired.
To protect your energy as an introvert you need to make sure that you get enough time by yourself so that you can recharge. You should also stay clear of people who drain your energy. Try not to spend a long time in their company. Choose to spend more time with people who make you feel good.
You can also make changes in your life so that you have more control. For example, you could change jobs so that you don’t have to waste so much of your energy at work, where you are forced to be around people everyday.
An Open Letter From Introverts To Everyone Else
Hi, it’s us, Introverts. We just wanted to write a quick note to everyone to clear the air. We know that we can be hard to read, a little closed off and even irritable sometimes, but we do love you. To help you deal with us, we have put together a list of things you should know.
1. If You Call Me, Have A Reason
Business? We’ll answer. News? OK. Just to talk? Hahaha.
Unless you fall into our “special human” category, we’re not answering your phone calls. And frankly, even our special humans get screened (sorry, Mom). Once again, it’s not that we don’t like you. It’s because we simply do not have the energy to talk for the sake of talking. Texting is our real friend. If you text us, then you have to tell us what you want to talk about, and we like that lots. Phone calls are for catching up and achieving goals. Anything else is considered a no-go.
“Is this an instrument of communication or torture.”
2. People We Know Better – Be There
Oh, kindergarten. So long ago, we were all shoved into a classroom and told to make friends. So, naturally, us Introverts know how to socialize just like everybody else. But don’t mistake this for being extroverted! The difference is, we legitimately feel like passing out directly after talking to other humans. And this is probably why we ask the dreaded question, “Well… who is going?” We aren’t saying you’re not cool, we’re just preparing ourselves. For what, you may ask? For talking to humans we do not know, followed by leaving the party early. Sorry we’re not sorry.
“You are looking at the master of leaving parties early.”
3. We Are OK Without A Bajillion Friends
Clearly, it makes sense that if we are horribly rotten at meeting new people, then we probably won’t have a ton of friends. Pretty simple logic. And we’re totally OK with that. However, the friends we do have are flipping fabulous. Take me, for example! If you are one of my dear friends, then one of two things happened:
1. You clawed your way in (bravo!)
2. We were confined together for a long period of time and forced to talk.
Moral of the story? If you’re friends with one of us, we love you more than you know, and you’re flipping fabulous.
4. We’re Intense
Disclaimer: we seriously DO NOT know how to “bring it down,” or “lighten up.” When we are in a great conversation, it normally pertains to politics, religion, money, complicated relationships or anything else we “aren’t supposed to talk about.” These taboo subjects are our life source at cocktail parties, and we can’t help it. Yes, your dog is too adorable and your outfit is beyond amazing, but what actually gets us going is your career buyer’s remorse or your relationship with your mother. Sorry in advance.
“Yes, we can be awkward.”
5. We Don’t Reach Out Well
Oh, the horror. Here’s the lowdown: We feel desperate or clingy when we ask someone to dinner, fake and slimy when we network and self-absorbed when filling in a distant friend on our lives. That’s no excuse — we have to work on these things, but be patient with us. If these things come easier for you, help a little lost Introvert out! We’re cute, and what we lack in social aggression we make up for in poignant conversation.
6. We Like You
We really do. Well, not all of you, but a lot of you. We appreciate that Extroverts talk to us and text (not call) us and inform of us of what’s going on outside of our scary minds! Even though we have become pretty comfortable in our introverted ways, we all at one point have been rather jealous of how you guys operate. So, don’t think that we don’t like you just because we prefer to be alone! We aren’t hanging out with each other, either. For real.
“No, I’m not lonely. I have me.”
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